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I’ve been talking to lots of clients lately about their body budget, a concept I learned from Lisa Feldman Barrett, PhD, one of the most cited researchers in the world. She writes: “Your brain runs your body using something like a budget. A financial budget tracks...

It took me six years to complete an 11-month yoga certification training. My mind intellectually knew the importance of having a growth mindset (mistakes are part of learning, the important thing is to try, etc), but the gap between the amateur I was and the teacher I...

A few summers ago, our family was finishing up dinner outside, everyone done eating except my then 4-year old son. I remember this exchange with him: Levi:  Mom, what's that feeling called? Me:  What feeling? Levi:  That feeling when you're full but you don't want to...

It's 10:45 AM and I have one of my favorite meals on the planet in front of me: a steaming hot bowl of bún bò huế, a spicy noodle soup that originates from Central Vietnam. I'm sitting outside, overlooking the parking lot of this family restaurant, savoring the quiet...

In those early weeks and months of parenthood, I felt a new, unfamiliar vulnerability in my bones that I didn’t have language for, and coped by reading endless parenting books. I tried to resist this new vulnerability by taking refuge in Dan Siegel books the way that...

I saw this on social media recently and can definitely relate to the sentiment with the new school year approaching: I have two kids, ages 6 and 4, and when they're having a meltdown or fighting with each other, one of my go-to parenting mantras is "He's not trying to...

I've been thinking about something Krista Tippett said on her On Being podcast (episode on the pandemic's impact on our nervous systems): "We need to take in what it has meant, this year, that we have become a danger to each other by virtue of our breath." It's going...

I spotted this on my walk today: An excerpt from a poem by Rilke: Let everything happen to you: beauty and terror. Just keep going. No feeling is final. Seeing this made me want to write you. So many are struggling right now. Prolonged uncertainty, stress,...

I laughed when my therapist friend Caley introduced me to the idea of a “work mullet” – business on the top and pajama pants on the bottom. That’s my way of telling you I’ve moved to all telehealth for the time being. I’m reaching out to everyone individually who’s...

I was browsing Phinney Books, picked up Gloria Steinem’s memoir My Life on the Road from the shelf and flipped to a random page. My eyes watered as I read this paragraph: I’m sitting next to a very old and elegant woman on a plane from Dallas to New York. Assuming...